Being alive means having a consistent connection with other human beings. It gives us an unexplainable warm feeling that we can’t comprehend. It’s like sucking on your favourite chocolate bar for a long time until your lips feel dry. It’s the same when you socialise too much with your friends or co-workers.
We all have that “social battery”. When I tried searching for its definition, one article stood out the most. It says,
The social battery is a relative term that changes from person to person. An introvert’s battery is fully charged in the beginning then gets drained before the day ends. Whereas in an extroverts case, their battery is usually empty when their day starts, therefore they need to be with other people to re-charge.– Psychreel (What Is Your Social Battery?)
This article supports the idea that mingling with others fuels extroverts. It’s a fact indeed, but not at all times. After social media was created and with the pandemic forcing people to stay at home for a long time – I’m getting the idea that several people have discovered the joy of being in solitude.
Trying to think about several topics to talk about endlessly can be exhausting. Especially if you haven’t seen each other for a long time, or the other way around, you’re always together every day!
If you’re one of those who like to spend your day quietly from time to time, who prefers to sip on a hot mug alone than in a coffee shop with a co-worker, or just sit in front of the beach on your own sometimes, then this blog is for you.
It may seem odd for others because you’re always that hyped, overly excited team member, so what? That’s fine. Stay away from them for now, it’s for the best.
Some people think it’s cool to be an introvert, so they forcibly act like one even though they’re not because they want to take a break from all the social madness. I admit I’m guilty of this.
So, instead of focusing on telling people that you’ve decided to shift from being a sociable pal to an introvert, just be yourself, rest when everything seems too tiring, and come out when you’re ready for the world again.
Cut yourself some slack and exclude yourself out if your social metre is starting to be low on battery. Don’t feel bad if you don’t like going out every day anymore. Don’t feel guilty if you keep rejecting the invites you get every week. Quit apologizing for the days you always miss whenever there’s a quiz night.
Start saying no to some of the every other day gatherings you’ve been wanting to say no to. Stop isolating yourself from the judgemental people who kept saying that you’ve changed. So what you’ve changed?
A person’s growth is not determined by what others think, it’s about what they think about themselves. You’re still you, you’re still the same fun, outgoing, the loud and talkative person as before. It’s just that, this time you have boundaries or limitations to your social life.
Don’t feel bad if you think your social battery is constantly low, that’s okay. People change, we all do. Stop bothering yourself with such thoughts, start focusing on what will make you feel better. Start working on what God wants for you. Don’t be afraid to say no.
Free yourself from the “I need to be there” burden. Be there when you need to, but be there for yourself too when you need liberty from this noisy society. I can relate to this because whenever I want to just stay at home with my big cup of coffee, and stay quiet for some time, my friends always get the impression that I have a problem, well I don’t. (Thanks for the care though ❤)
I’m just tired from talking and socialising. It felt good when my husband told me to try to stay at home for a month to be honest. I thought it would be a long, dreadful, irritating and a slow one month. I was wrong, instead of feeling excited after that one short month, I realised I wanted more days off from the world.
So, if you’re like me and you’re getting the vibe that you want to switch off the happy and hyped version of you, go ahead and do it in moderation. Trust me, it’s addictive.